One Thursday morning commuting on the train, I picked up a copy of Shortlist magazine left on the seat next to me. Flicking through the pages of the latest shiny, products I was expecting I got emotionally ambushed by Andrew Dickens’ deeply personal story about depression* (there’s a link below).
I couldn’t finish reading this unexpected article in public. It struck a chord. It was too emotional for a Men’s lifestyle magazine.
Bottom line: I didn’t want to be upset in front of other people.
Men and boys face unbelievable pressure
Fast forward to now and according to the Standard newspaper almost half the men in London feel like crying once a month* (more than anywhere else in the country).
The emotional challenge isn’t a London thing. It is universal. There is just something challenging about being a 21st Century man.
The Movember Foundation understands that. The Foundation is a global charity committed to men living happier, healthier and longer lives. You might be aware of their November campaign to encourage men to grow mustaches for the cause.
Interviewed by The Standard their UK director Sarah Coghlan said
Men and boys face unbelievable pressure to live up an archaic stereotype of what it means to be a man, and in the process they neglect their own mental and physical health.
Release The Pressure
It is ok to feel what you are feeling.
In fact neglecting your health has bad consequences. I have coached guys who have been tearful with frustration about their lack of career progress, or lack of life purpose. Who wants to feel drained by the demands of their working day?
Paying attention to health related goals makes more sense. You gain confidence. You feel better. You start performing better. Your work improves. Everyone is happier.
The first step is taking stock of what is going on in your life.
6 Ways To Start Helping The Man In The Mirror
- Ask yourself what is the source of the burden you are carrying
- How does the burden disrupt your time at home and at work
- List the worst-case consequences if you continue to do nothing about it
- Write down all the results that could come your way if you take action
- Decide who is the best person to talk to about tackling that goal (doctor, therapist, coach)
- Get in touch with that person and start making your life better
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