Wow, it is almost the start of June and there are 215 days left until the new year.
- Openness – being prepared to ask for help before being overcome by feelings of overwhelm.
- Sharing – letting others know what is happening and what it is teaching you.
- Listening – I have found paying close attention to what people are saying, beyond the words they are using, has been very helpful.
- Humour – this can be difficult, but finding the lighter side of a dark situation can help with keeping things in perspective.
- Forgiveness – we all make mistakes and no one is perfect. Getting hung up on the harm others have caused us reduces the time we can spend making a positive contribution to the world.
Phew! We’ve made it through the first third of the year.
Hopefully there are more good days in those four months than there are bad ones. In case the next eight months don’t all go well here are 5 upbeat thoughts to remember when the going gets tough and goals seem out of reach.
- Our friends can give us great support, if we are not too proud to ask them for it.
- We can find new people who will understand what we are going through by using social media.
- We might have forgotten about today’s crisis in 6 month’s time.
- We have overcome hard times before, so we can definitely do so again.
- Once we have got past this problem we will be able to help others who are struggling.
Happy New Year,
I hope 2018 treated you well.
At this point in the year anything is possible. To be fair that’s only true if we accept one word into our lives: change. Our results will stay the same if we do what we always have done. We can only set a goal and grow if we accept the need to change, the support of others and the rough times that come from moving out of our familiar situation.
There’s a George Eliot quote which fits this theme nicely:
It is never too late to be what you might have been
This is a call to shake things up a bit, in order to achieve better results and fulfil our potential. I’ll be following that principle in the weeks ahead, as I want to share this kind of information more widely, helping more people. So please, Like and Share where you find this content useful.
How about you? What’s the area in which you would like to make change happen for yourself? What goal are you pursuing to make that growth possible? Feel free to leave a comment here or tweet @RogerD_Said so others can benefit.
For now, all the best for the year ahead.
Christmas is nearly here. So a big Thank You is due to all those who work through the busy holiday period, making it less stressful for those of us coordinating parties, presents and people.
Everyone has ideas about how to be productive during busy times. I think there are 3 key principles we should hold on to, especially when we are surrounded by people wanting our attention, our commitment, or our energy. We should:
- Aim to take care of our own needs first, so we can be better at helping others.
- Be patient with people who resist change, or who are only thinking about themselves.
- Choose our battles, so that when we say ‘No’ that answer is heard and respected.
I think these ABC actions help, whether our goal is to thrive during the festive season or make change happen in the year ahead.
Feel free to Like and feedback if you try these principles out and they work for you (or share this post with someone who needs it).
Have a Happy Christmas and a peaceful New Year.
Today is World Mental Health Day.
The goal for #WMHD is raising awareness that 1 in 4 of us will personally experience mental health challenges during our life.
Yes, that is even true for us guys. Although getting us talking about our feelings can be hard work (that’s why it is worth asking us twice ‘how are you’ just to check what is really going on).
Having poor mental health sucks, believe me: It might be back in the early 2000s but I remember that feeling alone; being unable to get out of bed; seeing the world in black and white made no sense at all.
Today is is also time to remember we can overcome the rubbish feelings caused by stress, anxiety and depression with the help of family, friends and maybe professionals.
How do we start to change our situation?
By talking about our feelings with our family, colleagues and mates today.
And keeping the conversation going tomorrow.
And the next day.
And the next.
What Are Your Next Steps?
This isn’t an easy conversation to have. If this post rings bells here are some questions we can ask ourselves to get started.
- Who can we talk to about what is really going on inside?
- What isn’t working in our life?
- What is the smallest step that might help us feel just a bit better?
- Do we need professional help?
Thanks for reading this post. How will you use the information to make your life, or someone else’s better? Follow the link to Time For Change if you want to know more https://www.time-to-change.org.uk/asktwice
Finally, remember to Like, Comment and Share so others can learn how to help themselves too.
Autumn is the season for making changes, starting new projects and pursuing new goals. Students, startups and job seekers know that can be hard work.
I know how overwhelming change can seem with so many moving parts to think about. So, I’m going to suggest 3 steps to overcome the overwhelm problem and get your smile back:
Accept Your Feelings
If your new project feels nightmare-ish work out how to break down your big goal into more manageable chunks. When we aren’t struggling life feels better. Start completing those smaller steps and you will feel more in control of your situation.
Build Your Network
Take time to connect to people who you can help and who can help you. Reduce the number of people in your world who drain your energy and frustrate your focus.
Celebrate Your Progress
I know it is obvious, but sometimes we don’t notice we are improving and downplay positive feedback. We should be hungry to receive constructive feedback and able to feel good about the significant improvements we start to make once we get going.
What’s Your Next Move?
Obviously, these are tasters of bigger themes and it isn’t easy to put these 3 steps into practice. It is worth it though. Give it a go and feel free to comment on how things work out. Like and Share too so others can benefit too.
Have a great month.