3 Types Of Thoughtful #Present For 2019 And Beyond

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This year’s Christmas adverts are promoting the usual kind of gifts we should be giving: yes, I’m talking about coffee makers, perfume and jewellery.
 
 
 
 
But what about gifts that will create happy memories a long time from now?
 
 
 
 
For those of us wanting to show we care, without being too commercial here are three gift ideas which will leave a great impression as they come from the heart:
 
 
 
 
Time – I think volunteering a few minutes to help a friend out or benefit a good cause is pretty cool. This kind of thoughtfulness will be remembered  long time into the future.
 
 
 
 
Connection – I’ve appreciated it when someone knows me well enough to recommend I check out a particular TED Talk or YouTube video. The advantage of this gift is you can pay it forward and help someone else out too.
 
 
 
 
Recognition – I’m finding a simple ‘good morning’, or ‘thank you’ goes a long way to put a smile on other people’s faces. Recognition means I see you and I see the value you add to my life.
 
 
 
 
So what’s your take on the most meaningful presents we can give? Put another way, what is the gift you received a long time ago that still makes you feel good inside?
 
 
 
 
Feel free to tweet your thoughts @RogerD_said

World Mental Health Day Means You Can #Asktwice

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October 10 is World Mental Health Day.

The goal for #WMHD is raising awareness that 1 in 4 of us will personally experience mental health challenges during our life.

Yes, that is even true for us guys. Although getting us talking about our feelings can be hard work (that’s why it is worth asking us twice ‘how are you’ just to check what is really going on).

Having poor mental health sucks, believe me: It might be back in the early 2000s but I remember that feeling alone; being unable to get out of bed; seeing the world in black and white made no sense at all.

It is also time to remember we can overcome the rubbish feelings caused by stress, anxiety and depression with the help of family, friends and maybe professionals.

How do we start to change our situation?

By talking about our feelings with our family, colleagues and mates today, not just on 10 October.

And keeping the conversation going on the next day.

And the next.

What Are Your Next Steps?

This isn’t an easy conversation to have. If this post rings bells here are some questions you can you ask yourself to get started. 

  • Who can we talk to about what is really going on inside?
  • What isn’t working in our life?
  • What is the smallest step that might help us feel just a bit better?
  • Do we need professional help?

Thanks for reading this post. Remember to Like, Comment and Share so others can learn how to help themselves too.

3 Ways To Bring #Happiness Into Our Life

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I know life isn’t easy and the struggle to be successful can be exhausting.  However happiness is sometimes about the little things that connect us to other people:

  • Seeing some’s face light up when you show them you are grateful for their work.
  • Taking a minute to help a stranger find their destination when they are obviously lost.
  • Making time to share a funny story with friends and enjoying their laughter.

What is your secret to finding happiness in your busy day? Feel free to share your experience on Twitter @RogerD_said and tell someone else you like this discussion if it would help them out.

 

 

What’s The One Word Behind A Successful #Goal ?

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Happy New Year, 

I hope 2018 treated you well.  

At this point in the year anything is possible. To be fair that’s only true if we accept one word into our lives: change. Our results will stay the same if we do what we always have done. We can only set a goal and grow if we accept the need to change, the support of others and the rough times that come from moving out of our familiar situation.    

There’s a George Eliot quote which fits this theme nicely:  

It is never too late to be what you might have been  

This is a call to shake things up a bit, in order to achieve better results and fulfil our potential. I’ll be following that principle in the weeks ahead, as I want to share this kind of information more widely, helping more people. So please, Like and Share where you find this content useful. 

How about you? What’s the area in which you would like to make change happen for yourself? What goal are you pursuing to make that growth possible? Feel free to leave a comment here or tweet @RogerD_Said so others can benefit.  

For now, all the best for the year ahead.  

Roger  

What 3 Lessons Can We Learn From Comicbook Heroes ?

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What Did You Learn From Stan Lee ?

I discovered the Marvel universe as a kid, when a mate loaned me a copy of an Avengers comic book. I loved it. I went on to enjoy the art bringing the adventures of dozens of Marvel heroes to life. Decades later I’m grateful to the inspiring vision of the late Stan Lee for all that joy. He said his goal for Marvel comics was that

“…someday an intelligent adult would not be embarrassed to walk down the street with a comic magazine”.

Mission accomplished. Marvel’s creative output would not be seen as ‘for kids’ but would successfully have something to say to the rest of us too. He achieved that goal and more. Many of us have owned trading cards, magazines and now films that are part of the Marvel Cinematic Universe.

What Are My 3 Take Aways From Marvel’s Storytelling? 

Teams rely on diverse talents to create exciting outcomes (what would Stan Lee’s characters be without Jack Kirby’s pencils…or the X Men without the Professor’s detachment and Logan’s passion)?

Strength isn’t about muscles ,it is about depth of character (take a look at Iron Man issues 120 to 128 in which Tony Stark deals with his alcohol dependency) Being aware of our own strengths and development needs gives us an edge

Leaders set the tone for the people around them , creating a healthy environment where  colleagues can try different approaches, fail and learn from mistakes (think about how much room to operate Phil Coulson gives the agents of SHIELD)?

What have you learned about life by discovering the Marvel universe? Feel free to have your say by leaving a comment.

Excelsior!

How To Choose The Next Step Toward Your #Goal In 5 Minutes

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Everyone is busy these days, although some of us have already enjoyed a few vacation days this summer. Some others are looking forward to their holiday in the sun. Here’s a thought: How many of us understand the stresses and strains we carry around while we are busy leading our 9 to 5 lives as leaders, managers, entrepreneurs or creatives?

Good news, there is a way we can achieve a better understanding of ourselves at work, at home, or on a mountain top.

How To Get Clarity Over Your Goals In 5 Minutes

I’ve found five minutes of mindfulness a day can help answer the question, what should I be doing next? What does my approach involve?

  • Sitting with a straight back, eyes closed
  • Breathing deeply from the diaphragm
  • Relaxing shoulders, arms and legs
  • Tuning out the sounds around me
  • Noticing what I am feeling in my head, heart and gut
  • Finding a way to use all that information after my five minutes are up and I feel refreshed

What would five minutes a day of mindfulness do for you today? How about over the next week?  Take a moment to write down and share your answer. Feel free to message your discovery on Twitter @RogerD_Said You can Like and Share the post too, if it has been helpful.

Thank you for reading the post and have a great day.

4 Steps To Help You Reach Your New Year #Goals

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Happy New Year!

You are not along if you feel daunted by the reality of more than 360 days in your 2018 planner.

It is possible to change the course of your life in that time. Here 4 steps to get you moving toward your next goal.

First, get specific about the area you are going to work on. Chances are, like the rest of us, you have a bunch of areas you would like to tackle. Many people think about setting goals regarding Health, Finances or Work for instance.

Why not write down all of the key themes running through your life at the moment. Score your satisfaction with each one out of 10. Whatever area scores 6 or less would be a good place for goal setting (if there are several tied in that group choose the one that feels most like it needs your attention).

Let’s suppose you want to enjoy a higher standard of health by running regularly, like a former coaching client of mine used to. He identified a positive benefit to following his goal (he could reconnect with running buddies and raise money for charity by taking part in an event later in the year).

Second, list the resources you can already access to tackle your goal. Resources include the people you know, the skills, you have, the wider knowledge you can tap into.

Set some boundaries / milestones up in your planner. Use it to show what you will do to work on your goal, with whose help and when. This visualisation will help you focus.

Third, run a reality check. Given the pressures on his average week it wasn’t  always practical for  my client to train more than once a week. This meant he had to adjust his plan so as to make the progress he wanted to achieve, without feeling his ultimate goal was unreachable.

Fourth, celebrate each improvement made along the way. We can sometimes care so much about crossing the finishing line that we downplay our improved performance at each stage.

Thank you for reading this initial 2018 post. Leave a comment, Like or Share if it has helped you so you can help others. I’m interested in what you have to say and others will be too.

Until next time, have a great day.

Roger