- Fresh air, instead of the recycled climate stirred up by air conditioning
- Fresh scenery and the chance to top up our vitamin D reserves
- Fresh perspectives and space for mindfulness, not the time suck of incoming messages that keep us nailed to our desks
So, what was the highlight of your month? For me it was last weekend. In 48 hours I met several goals, including getting to see some friends, catching up with family and spending time on my own stuff. I am grateful that I was able to spend my time in this way.
Looking back at your month, how much time did you get to spend happily doing what you wanted?
Did you get to spend enough time seeing people you love and meeting your needs?
Or did work overwhelm everything?
Would you score yourself above 6 out of 10 on the happiness scale?
If we live to our mid 70s we will have spent more than 27,000 days on Earth! If we are too busy running from Point A to Point B to be happy in that time we are doing ourselves a disservice. So what conscious step will we need to take today, to make ourselves a little happier?
If you have survived another busy week (mine involved plenty of running around for other people) I’ve got to ask, how do you let go of the stress, relax and become a nice person to be around once again?
In fact I remember a few years ago asking a group of carers (busy people responsible for loved ones’ well being) what they did to unwind and I still think their approach makes sense. They recommended
- Nature – spending time outside, feeling the sun on my face shifts my mood.
- Music – listening to a favourite artist reminds me of good times.
- Laughing – enjoying a good comedy programme puts tough times into the background.
- Exercise – getting to the gym, playing sport, taking the stairs releases feel good chemicals into our system.
- Friends – catching up with people we care about activates our support system, which reminds us we are not alone.
I have followed 2 of these strategies consistently and they help. Which ones do you follow or do you have other suggestions to share?
Today is World Mental Health Day.
The goal for #WMHD is raising awareness that 1 in 4 of us will personally experience mental health challenges during our life.
Yes, that is even true for us guys. Although getting us talking about our feelings can be hard work (that’s why it is worth asking us twice ‘how are you’ just to check what is really going on).
Having poor mental health sucks, believe me: It might be back in the early 2000s but I remember that feeling alone; being unable to get out of bed; seeing the world in black and white made no sense at all.
Today is is also time to remember we can overcome the rubbish feelings caused by stress, anxiety and depression with the help of family, friends and maybe professionals.
How do we start to change our situation?
By talking about our feelings with our family, colleagues and mates today.
And keeping the conversation going tomorrow.
And the next day.
And the next.
What Are Your Next Steps?
This isn’t an easy conversation to have. If this post rings bells here are some questions we can ask ourselves to get started.
- Who can we talk to about what is really going on inside?
- What isn’t working in our life?
- What is the smallest step that might help us feel just a bit better?
- Do we need professional help?
Thanks for reading this post. How will you use the information to make your life, or someone else’s better? Follow the link to Time For Change if you want to know more https://www.time-to-change.org.uk/asktwice
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I’ve spent a lot of time recently in the company of nurses, physiotherapists, doctors and other NHS (national health service) professionals. They are in the business of service delivery. Their customers are very demanding (if our own health or that of a loved one is in question we won’t always be reasonable in what we want). They are passionate about the quality of the work they deliver.
In my experience the professionals in the NHS mostly produce the right results at the right time. So, on the 70th birthday of the NHS here are 7 points we can take away from what health care staff do well day after day:
Saying clearly what needs to happen next and asking for cooperation to bring it about.
Knowing when to say ‘no’, because a different action will produce a better result.
It helps everyone to know what kind of result the person receiving the service is looking for, then it becomes easier to tailor work to achieve that outcome (and care about the progress towards that goal)
Keeping in touch with the boundaries involved and going to find help when we are out of our depth (without thinking too much about how it will make us look).
We all achieve better results when we are thinking and acting in others’ interests, without ego getting in the way.
Believing that colleagues and the other people in our network can achieve great results in unfamiliar areas.
Remembering to say ‘thank you’ for the service you receive that helps you achieve more and feel better.
What Do You Think Good Service Looks Like?
These are my ideas about the basics behind the delivery of great services. If you have experienced impressive service who was responsible for providing it? What did they do to make things go well? How did you let them know you were pleased?
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All the best
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Any time I’ve visited people in hospital I’ve been impressed by the attention medics pay to people in their care.
Teams of doctors, nurses, paramedics, physios, dietitians, care assistants, cleaners and the rest all working together to deliver their part of a bigger goal – to help their patients.
How Do You Show Your Appreciation?
It seems to me a lot of people do great work without expecting thanks for their efforts (pro tip, a box of chocolates and a timely thank you note for the specific type of result goes down well). But I think everyone likes to feel their efforts are appreciated when they are above and beyond the call of duty. Which leads me to ask two questions:
How do you say ‘thank you’ to your team / colleagues / clients when praise is well earned? What are the consequences on morale and productivity of leaving gratitude unsaid?
If you have a successful strategy for putting smiles on face feel free to share it here, it is bound to be useful to others. Also, if this post has inspired you to show your appreciation in a professional or personal context feel free to Like and Share it.
Thank you for reading this post and have a great day.
I like working on goals with other people as I did at a recent workshop. There is something powerful about taking an opportunity to share information and experiences; help people connect to one another; solve a longstanding problem. This work and the changes it triggers can get emotional.
I know some people prefer standing alone. They believe the status quo is necessary. They have a Me-versus-The-World mentality. Their emotions are negative. Their life is more of a struggle than it need be. Their well being suffers.
That isn’t necessary. When they are emotionally ready even isolated people can choose to change.
With Work Dreams Can Become Reality
Speaking of emotions, this week marked the 50th anniversary of the assassination of Dr Martin Luther King Jr. It is inspiring to realise he helped build lasting change in the United States by saying the civil rights status quo of the 1960s was not acceptable.
He brought change-ready people together, so they could reflect, share experiences and identify solutions to the longstanding problems they and the country faced.
Speaking in front of the Lincoln Memorial on 28 August 1963 Doctor King set out a goal which he would not live to see realised. The goal changed the course of history in the United States. The goal he outlined was simple. He dreamed of a day when diverse American children would:
Not be judged by the colour of their skin…but the content of their character
(President Kennedy was more specific with his emotionally inspiring September 1962 goal – to be delivered before the end of that decade. Choosing to land a man on the Moon and returning him safely to Earth also changed the course of American history).
What’s the valuable lesson? That adding emotion to a goal makes it a more powerful target to work toward.
How Are Your Goals Progressing?
Most of us are working on smaller, more personal goals then those Doctor King or President Kennedy planned. We still need to pay attention to what we want to achieve at each step; fix the boundaries within which we are working so we don’t go off course; care passionately about the progress we make along the way. How much emotion do your goals contain and how much progress are you making on them?
Thank you for reading to the end. I hope this post has inspired you. Feel free to comment, like, share and see what else the site has to offer. There will be more to say in May. Meanwhile enjoy the rest of April.