- Fresh air, instead of the recycled climate stirred up by air conditioning
- Fresh scenery and the chance to top up our vitamin D reserves
- Fresh perspectives and space for mindfulness, not the time suck of incoming messages that keep us nailed to our desks
October 10 is World Mental Health Day.
The goal for #WMHD is raising awareness that 1 in 4 of us will personally experience mental health challenges during our life.
Yes, that is even true for us guys. Although getting us talking about our feelings can be hard work (that’s why it is worth asking us twice ‘how are you’ just to check what is really going on).
Having poor mental health sucks, believe me: It might be back in the early 2000s but I remember that feeling alone; being unable to get out of bed; seeing the world in black and white made no sense at all.
It is also time to remember we can overcome the rubbish feelings caused by stress, anxiety and depression with the help of family, friends and maybe professionals.
How do we start to change our situation?
By talking about our feelings with our family, colleagues and mates today, not just on 10 October.
And keeping the conversation going on the next day.
And the next.
What Are Your Next Steps?
This isn’t an easy conversation to have. If this post rings bells here are some questions you can you ask yourself to get started.
- Who can we talk to about what is really going on inside?
- What isn’t working in our life?
- What is the smallest step that might help us feel just a bit better?
- Do we need professional help?
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So, what was the highlight of your month? For me it was last weekend. In 48 hours I met several goals, including getting to see some friends, catching up with family and spending time on my own stuff. I am grateful that I was able to spend my time in this way.
Looking back at your month, how much time did you get to spend happily doing what you wanted?
Did you get to spend enough time seeing people you love and meeting your needs?
Or did work overwhelm everything?
Would you score yourself above 6 out of 10 on the happiness scale?
If we live to our mid 70s we will have spent more than 27,000 days on Earth! If we are too busy running from Point A to Point B to be happy in that time we are doing ourselves a disservice. So what conscious step will we need to take today, to make ourselves a little happier?
When it comes to the great achievement of the Moon landing ‘One small step’ and ‘One giant leap’ are perfect metaphors.
The giant leap involved a huge amount of teamwork, leading from President Kennedy’s ambitious idea in 1962 to a an awesome achievement celebrated by President Nixon in 1969.
To realise the major goal of a manned Moon landing it was necessary to break down that ambition into small bite sized chunks, assigning tasks to physicists, mathematicians, engineers, pilots and a network of other specialists, Once the stages were set the milestones completed and the risks managed the results became inevitable.
And so the example of the moon landing is useful for all of us when we think about the goals we wish to achieve.
For instance if the ambition after this summer is to get a new job by year’s end, there are several steps to take.
- First take stock of qualifications and experience.
- Then identify gaps in either area.
- Next work out how to plug those gaps.
- Having done that hard work we can make a decision about the sorts of jobs that we want and the employers we would like to wok for.
- With that knowledge about what we want, what we offer and who we would like to offer it to ,we can make a strategic series of applications or at least establish a presence on the social media front aimed at connecting with the potential employers and people who would be interested in making use of our talents.
Doing this very important work, in bite sized chunks, makes accountability possible. Doing all the work means we can to stand up, breathe deep and reach for the stars.
What is your favourite way to achieve the biggest goals you face? Feel free to share this content, if you have found this post useful. You can Like or Comment too if you want.
If you have survived another busy week (mine involved plenty of running around for other people) I’ve got to ask, how do you let go of the stress, relax and become a nice person to be around once again?
In fact I remember a few years ago asking a group of carers (busy people responsible for loved ones’ well being) what they did to unwind and I still think their approach makes sense. They recommended
- Nature – spending time outside, feeling the sun on my face shifts my mood.
- Music – listening to a favourite artist reminds me of good times.
- Laughing – enjoying a good comedy programme puts tough times into the background.
- Exercise – getting to the gym, playing sport, taking the stairs releases feel good chemicals into our system.
- Friends – catching up with people we care about activates our support system, which reminds us we are not alone.
I have followed 2 of these strategies consistently and they help. Which ones do you follow or do you have other suggestions to share?
Wow, it is almost the start of June and there are 215 days left until the new year.
- Openness – being prepared to ask for help before being overcome by feelings of overwhelm.
- Sharing – letting others know what is happening and what it is teaching you.
- Listening – I have found paying close attention to what people are saying, beyond the words they are using, has been very helpful.
- Humour – this can be difficult, but finding the lighter side of a dark situation can help with keeping things in perspective.
- Forgiveness – we all make mistakes and no one is perfect. Getting hung up on the harm others have caused us reduces the time we can spend making a positive contribution to the world.
Phew! We’ve made it through the first third of the year.
Hopefully there are more good days in those four months than there are bad ones. In case the next eight months don’t all go well here are 5 upbeat thoughts to remember when the going gets tough and goals seem out of reach.
- Our friends can give us great support, if we are not too proud to ask them for it.
- We can find new people who will understand what we are going through by using social media.
- We might have forgotten about today’s crisis in 6 month’s time.
- We have overcome hard times before, so we can definitely do so again.
- Once we have got past this problem we will be able to help others who are struggling.