How To #Thrive In Tough Times

Searching for the light – Photo by Dewang Gupta on Unsplash

There are 153 days left in 2020. I suspect I won’t be the only one glad to see the back of a year which has featured widespread: 

  • Health dilemmas 
  • Job insecurity 
  • Prejudice against minorities 

Fortunately, there have been desperately difficult times before (and sadly there will be more in the days ahead).

Nonetheless there is wisdom we can tap into to inspire ourselves and those around us. Wisdom which reminds us that the future is brighter than the present.

It is during our darkest moments that we must focus, to see the light

Aristotle

In other words: it is the toughest times which test us most. Those are the times during which we need to look hard, to find the life lessons to keep us moving forward. 

What is the phrase you use to motivate yourself, or the people around you when the going gets tough? Share your thoughts in a comment, or by tweeting @RogerD_Said

#BlackLivesMatter – They Always Have

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Black Lives mattered in the 1960s when the sign my parents came up against when apartment hunting in London said ‘No Coloured. No Irish. No Dogs’.

They mattered in the 1970s when a member of the public could say they wanted to speak to a White member of staff, rather than my Dad (and have that ‘reasonable’ request honoured by management) .

They mattered in the 1980s when on a degree course someone could refer to a third party as a Black C*nt (and then add, ‘no offence mate’ when he saw I had heard what he said).

They mattered when George Floyd said to police officers, ‘I can’t breathe’ and called out for his mother.

These are different sized examples, some big some smaller in scale. They take place at different times, but all contain the same message: being from an ethnic minority means being less than equal, in some people’s eyes.

So here we are in 2020, still needing to take substantial steps to level society up. All because those steps were not taken 60, 50 or 40 years ago.

Here are some steps we can take to embed improvements in this generation:

  • Accept the principle that Black Lives Matter does not mean other lives don’t.
  • Agree there is enough equality to go around and that the inter section between ethnicity and any other personal characteristic matters too.
  • Act today to take personal responsibility for making one change in the world around us, which makes things better for everyone tomorrow.

What goal will you set yourself to make a difference? How will your actions show you are a leader when it comes to making change happen? You can comment below or Tweet @RogerD_Said if you prefer.

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3 More Steps After #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek

So, here we are and MHAW has just ended and men have spoken up. However, the conversation about better mental health continues. Luckily, we have tools available to us to improve our health, as well as the support to help us keep going.

Here are three more steps to better mental health.

Ask ourselves what is going inside and how we feel about it. Is everything good? Or is there more anxiety and darkness than usual? The greater the disturbance the less successful our relationships and productivity.

Build up our personal networks, so we are connected to people – family, friends, professionals – who understand our situation and can support us when we need it. Being able to support them is a bonus!

Continue these conversations. It is important to keep having those conversations about positive mental health and to reduce the stigma sometimes associated with these conditions.

How do you address your mental health needs? Feel free to add your voice to the conversation with a comment below.

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How To Make Welsh Rarebit: And Forget #Coronavirus For A While

Creating Something – Like A Simple Meal – Can Improve Our Mood

So, how are you doing today?

No. Really. How are you doing?

Anxious? Concerned? Unsettled?

No harm in having any of these feelings (at different times since the Covid-19 pandemic started I have felt one or two of these states).

The trick is to find a way to comfort yourself, so you are more like yourself and better able to help other people. Any small step will do.

Exercise.

Music.

Food.

Whatever works.

We won’t be locked-down forever, so living it up, in a small way is worth it. I hope the recipe gets you thinking about what you can do to get moving in a more positive direction.

3 Steps To Getting Stuff Done

Wow.

We have made it to the end of January.

Blue Monday is behind us.

Eleven months lie ahead.

And that is a lot of space for completing goals.

To be fair I’ve accomplished one of my main 2020 goals already (there are plenty left on my list).

This was one I had put off, as there is some pain linked with it, which made it harder to deal with.

Anyway, my method to get even the painful stuff done is simple;

  • Clearly define what needs doing
  • Set a specific time aside to do it and
  • Line up a reward for afterwards

What works for you? You can share your secret to success on Twitter @RogerD_Said

What Should We Do To Enjoy A #Happy New Year?

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We all want a happy new year.

Don’t we?

At the start of the year advertisers make the most of that fact. They tell us that:

  • If we join the gym we can be healthier.
  • Moving home will make us that much happier.
  • Our lives will be even better if we start a new job.

But investing in those changes means accepting there are happiness gaps in our life (affecting our Health, Comfort or Career) and that these gaps need to be tackled.

Gap filling tools include, self help books; trusted advice; even blog posts.

Speaking for myself I am going to make more time this year to keep score. By that I mean taking time to assess my life to work out where the happiness gaps are. If an area scores 5 out of 10, or less, then I have to move it up a notch. I will set a goal, agree some actions, relate the actions to dates and get started. I’ll write about the results here.

I hope this post helps nudge you to sit down with a cuppa and score the important parts of your life out of 10, to work out what you can change.

Feel free to comment on your goals here, or share your thoughts in a tweet @RogerD_Said

Here’s to a great 2020.

3 Qualities To Help Reach 2020 #Goals

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What Will We Achieve In 2020 ? Photo by Ignored shots from Pexels

So, the end of the year is here and I am looking back at how I achieved my goals, so I can reach out toward my next set of goals and achieve more of them in 2020.

What are the three things qualities I had to practice to achieve more in 2019?

Patience 

Making time to slow down and look again at my plan, message, relationships meant more chance of spotting a mistake and creating a better result. 

Gratitude 

Saying ‘thank you ‘ improved the quality of my relationships, even if they were related to simple projects.  

Acceptance 

Sometimes difficult situations cannot be changed only endured. Even bad situations can be a good learning opportunities. It has been worthwhile asking, What do I want instead of what I have got?

What have been your take-aways from 2019? Feel free to leave a reply or Tweet me @RogerD_Said

Have a great 2020!

3 Types Of Thoughtful #Present For 2019 And Beyond

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Creating happy memories – Photo by Agung Pandit Wiguna from Pexels
 
 
 
This year’s Christmas adverts are promoting the usual kind of gifts we should be giving: yes, I’m talking about coffee makers, perfume and jewellery.
 
 
 
 
But what about gifts that will create happy memories a long time from now?
 
 
 
 
For those of us wanting to show we care, without being too commercial here are three gift ideas which will leave a great impression as they come from the heart:
 
 
 
 
Time – I think volunteering a few minutes to help a friend out or benefit a good cause is pretty cool. This kind of thoughtfulness will be remembered  long time into the future.
 
 
 
 
Connection – I’ve appreciated it when someone knows me well enough to recommend I check out a particular TED Talk or YouTube video. The advantage of this gift is you can pay it forward and help someone else out too.
 
 
 
 
Recognition – I’m finding a simple ‘good morning’, or ‘thank you’ goes a long way to put a smile on other people’s faces. Recognition means I see you and I see the value you add to my life.
 
 
 
 
So what’s your take on the most meaningful presents we can give? Put another way, what is the gift you received a long time ago that still makes you feel good inside?
 
 
 
 
Feel free to tweet your thoughts @RogerD_said

3 Steps to Beating The Autumnal Blues

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Experience less stress by getting out into the world – Photo by Aleksandar Pasaric from Pexels

The clocks have gone back, so the end of the year must be close by. Do you ever feel like staying indoors and hibernating until the spring? I have felt like that, so it is understandable if you answered ‘Yes’.
It is better though to set a goal to do something to safeguard your health and then take action to tackle that goal.
Why?
Because, despite the cold, wet and gloom of the autumn there are health benefits to getting out and about. Doing this means we get to experience:
  • Fresh air, instead of the recycled climate stirred up by air conditioning
  • Fresh scenery and the chance to top up our vitamin D reserves
  • Fresh perspectives and space for mindfulness, not the time suck of incoming messages that keep us nailed to our desks
Mixing things up keeps things from getting stale. That’s good news for you, your team and your customers. I hope the ideas above help you over the coming weeks. Feel free to share your secrets to beating the autumnal blues!