- Fresh air, instead of the recycled climate stirred up by air conditioning
- Fresh scenery and the chance to top up our vitamin D reserves
- Fresh perspectives and space for mindfulness, not the time suck of incoming messages that keep us nailed to our desks
October 10 is World Mental Health Day.
The goal for #WMHD is raising awareness that 1 in 4 of us will personally experience mental health challenges during our life.
Yes, that is even true for us guys. Although getting us talking about our feelings can be hard work (that’s why it is worth asking us twice ‘how are you’ just to check what is really going on).
Having poor mental health sucks, believe me: It might be back in the early 2000s but I remember that feeling alone; being unable to get out of bed; seeing the world in black and white made no sense at all.
It is also time to remember we can overcome the rubbish feelings caused by stress, anxiety and depression with the help of family, friends and maybe professionals.
How do we start to change our situation?
By talking about our feelings with our family, colleagues and mates today, not just on 10 October.
And keeping the conversation going on the next day.
And the next.
What Are Your Next Steps?
This isn’t an easy conversation to have. If this post rings bells here are some questions you can you ask yourself to get started.
- Who can we talk to about what is really going on inside?
- What isn’t working in our life?
- What is the smallest step that might help us feel just a bit better?
- Do we need professional help?
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So, what was the highlight of your month? For me it was last weekend. In 48 hours I met several goals, including getting to see some friends, catching up with family and spending time on my own stuff. I am grateful that I was able to spend my time in this way.
Looking back at your month, how much time did you get to spend happily doing what you wanted?
Did you get to spend enough time seeing people you love and meeting your needs?
Or did work overwhelm everything?
Would you score yourself above 6 out of 10 on the happiness scale?
If we live to our mid 70s we will have spent more than 27,000 days on Earth! If we are too busy running from Point A to Point B to be happy in that time we are doing ourselves a disservice. So what conscious step will we need to take today, to make ourselves a little happier?
When it comes to the great achievement of the Moon landing ‘One small step’ and ‘One giant leap’ are perfect metaphors.
The giant leap involved a huge amount of teamwork, leading from President Kennedy’s ambitious idea in 1962 to a an awesome achievement celebrated by President Nixon in 1969.
To realise the major goal of a manned Moon landing it was necessary to break down that ambition into small bite sized chunks, assigning tasks to physicists, mathematicians, engineers, pilots and a network of other specialists, Once the stages were set the milestones completed and the risks managed the results became inevitable.
And so the example of the moon landing is useful for all of us when we think about the goals we wish to achieve.
For instance if the ambition after this summer is to get a new job by year’s end, there are several steps to take.
- First take stock of qualifications and experience.
- Then identify gaps in either area.
- Next work out how to plug those gaps.
- Having done that hard work we can make a decision about the sorts of jobs that we want and the employers we would like to wok for.
- With that knowledge about what we want, what we offer and who we would like to offer it to ,we can make a strategic series of applications or at least establish a presence on the social media front aimed at connecting with the potential employers and people who would be interested in making use of our talents.
Doing this very important work, in bite sized chunks, makes accountability possible. Doing all the work means we can to stand up, breathe deep and reach for the stars.
What is your favourite way to achieve the biggest goals you face? Feel free to share this content, if you have found this post useful. You can Like or Comment too if you want.
If you have survived another busy week (mine involved plenty of running around for other people) I’ve got to ask, how do you let go of the stress, relax and become a nice person to be around once again?
In fact I remember a few years ago asking a group of carers (busy people responsible for loved ones’ well being) what they did to unwind and I still think their approach makes sense. They recommended
- Nature – spending time outside, feeling the sun on my face shifts my mood.
- Music – listening to a favourite artist reminds me of good times.
- Laughing – enjoying a good comedy programme puts tough times into the background.
- Exercise – getting to the gym, playing sport, taking the stairs releases feel good chemicals into our system.
- Friends – catching up with people we care about activates our support system, which reminds us we are not alone.
I have followed 2 of these strategies consistently and they help. Which ones do you follow or do you have other suggestions to share?
I know life isn’t easy and the struggle to be successful can be exhausting. However happiness is sometimes about the little things that connect us to other people:
- Seeing some’s face light up when you show them you are grateful for their work.
- Taking a minute to help a stranger find their destination when they are obviously lost.
- Making time to share a funny story with friends and enjoying their laughter.
What is your secret to finding happiness in your busy day? Feel free to share your experience on Twitter @RogerD_said and tell someone else you like this discussion if it would help them out.
It can be difficult to sum up the direction a life has taken without resorting to a list: when someone was born; where they went to school; which skills did they acquire; how they used those skills to make their living.
When I recently wrote and delivered a, well received, eulogy I took a different approach. Rather than a dull list I told vivid stories which brought an entire history to life. The audience received a rounded picture of the person they knew as a relative, friend, neighbour or ex-colleague.
Follow the link to YouTube if you would like to learn more about using stories to communicate the details of someone else’s life (or maybe your own). Remember to Like, Share and comment too if this post has helped you.
Are you struggling to define your main 2018 goal? No worries if you are. We’ve all been there.
Here are 3 powerful steps to help achieve our goals
This is the time of year for fireworks. Ideally every day we spend at work would be the kind of day to celebrate with them.
Is your work exciting, challenging and fun? If it isn’t your next goal could be changing that situation.
According to May 2016 employee-outlook research by the CIPD* nearly a quarter of UK employees are dissatisfied with their role and ready to go elsewhere:
Job satisfaction in the UK has dropped to its lowest level in over two years and job seeking intentions have risen to almost a quarter (24%) of employees – a two and half year high.
What Options Do We Have If Work Is Dissatisfying?
Here are 3 steps to take if you want to move past the stuck-in-a-rut feeling
Achievements – List them. Take stock of what you have accomplished in the last 12 months and write down how these wins tell your story. How does the learning you have completed make you attractive as a member of a new team? Where could the new skills you have displayed add value to a new project? When have you stood out as a leader and what can you contribute beyond your day job?
Bravery – Practice it. Successful job changers spend time in uncomfortable situations. It is uncomfortable to plan how to plug gaps in your resume /CV. Getting feedback from practice interviews can be tough. Having your job applications go nowhere can be demoralizing. Keep trying.
Choices – Make smart ones. Is there a local project you can volunteer for which allows you to use your existing skills and gain new ones? Which network can you become active in to connect to people you can help? How can you use social media to show others what you are capable of?
What Is Your Next Step?
Rather than wait for the New Year why not use the ideas above to start making changes to your story. If you are inspired to take action use the comment section to tell others what you are going to do. You can Like and Share too
All the best. Roger
You can find out more about UK employees’ outlook at http://www.cipd.co.uk )
A lot can change in 48 hours.
For instance last Monday you might have had a smile on your face as a result of the International Day of Happiness. You might even have seen the How To Be Happy recipes in the media and started planning the steps to take to become more satisfied with your work, life or family.
Then on Wednesday came the terrorist attack in central London, which resulted in the death of police officer Keith Palmer and three others, plus over injuries to 50 other people. That is the kind of event which causes everyone to pause and wonder if there is a future in trying to make a positive change in the world.
Rising Above Set Backs
From the extreme of terror attacks to the everyday reality of negative people, life puts challenges in our way. Our ability to respond to those challenges can sometimes use a boost.
Instead of being knocked off course by testing events some people naturally continue to plan; take action; contribute to a better world.
What sets those people apart?
In a word they embrace resilience (they recover quickly from difficulties).
3 Steps To Greater Resilience
If you want a greater ability to bounce back from set backs here are 3 steps to get you started
- Connect with the other people who share your values. Find them on social media. What are they talking about? What can you contribute to their conversation?
- Take the next step and participate in the the group’s real life sessions. Offering your time and insight strengthens the online connection. .
- When you are ready step up to the next level of commitment and lead one of the group activities. Demonstrating your ability in this way will help you stand out and make your distinctive input be more memorable.
How Will You Build Up Your Resilience?
Use the comment section to share your strategy. How will you add to your stocks of resilience when you work on your goals? Please like and share this post if you know someone who will find it helpful.