What Are The 3 Key #Leadership Strengths?

Let’s hear it for the leaders!

They are the ones who inspire others to try their best, even in tough times.

If you work for long enough, you will see examples of Good, Indifferent and Poor leadership.

Judging by the personal development conversations I’ve had, over time, people like being led by:

Human beings, not controlling by-the-book types.

People who can smile, even after the plan goes wrong.

Bosses who want their teams to learn from what went wrong. Then try again.

So, who is the best leader you have come across? Which of the three qualities in the YouTube video below did they get right?

https://youtu.be/GEaKgLEdDLY

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3 Steps Toward Personal #Success

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One day I want to be as wise as James Earl Jones (he provides the voice of Darth Vader in the Star Wars saga).

Or maybe as creative as Clint Eastwood (a film director and musician).

I might even settle for a touch of William Shatner’s curiosity (well known space explorer).

Although these gents are now in their nineties their wisdom, creativity and curiosity were always present.

Having said that, our own unique talents can sometimes lie below the surface of our everyday armour. We can be scared to show others just how talented we are whether we are fifteen, or fifty. We have to decide we can be vulnerable, then get and hold other people’s attention.

So we need to get out of our own way and actively chase after personal success. If we are doing this, our life goals should include:

  • Working to increase the amount of happiness we get from our day
  • Promoting others’ well being
  • Building an intriguing set of memories for others to remember us by

How does that sound to you?

It’s #Timetotalk

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The hardest part about living with a mental health challenge?

Others can’t see it.

Broken limb?

We wear a plaster cast.

Feeling broken down?

We need to start talking.

Being vulnerable.

Opening up about the hurt.

Inviting someone to support us.

In person, or online.

In confidence.

In our own interests (and for the sake of our loved ones).

It is always a good time to talk.

Making Change Happen – Personal #Goals In 2021

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So, what has September felt like to you? 

Post-pandemic is it business as usual, once again?  

Or, is it more like something from a science fiction film, complete with rapid testing and face coverings? 

Happiness involves choice.

Making change happen starts with moving towards a goal.

Everyone choosing to follow a different path after lockdown has had to plan their way forward. Maybe that is something you want to do? If so there’s plenty of information in the posts here to get you started.

Check out the download section too, if you want some ideas on where to focus your attention.

The first step is to ask yourself, what do I want to change by the end of next month?

Then figure out what your next step looks like. 

Then take it.

Leave a reply and let everyone know how you get on!

#Business As #Usual ?

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Step 4 in the Covid-19 recovery process means fewer restrictions. 

Step 4 doesn’t mean everything is back to business as usual, workwise.

In fact, it could take a while for ‘usual’ to emerge.

Blended Working: Pros and Cons

How does a blended approach of 50:50 working from home and an office sound?

The Pros are obvious:

  • Less hours commuting
  • More creative contact with diverse colleagues

The Cons are less obvious:

  • Quiet pressure to work just a bit more (early morning / in the evening / on the weekend)
  • More exposure to any toxicity in the workplace and the potential to get into disruptive relationships

What We Choose Affects Our Happiness

Our choices will affect our happiness.

A well-thought through choice will help build job satisfaction.

A casual one could cause damage.

So, it is worth taking time to figure out what we want from the work we do.

That reflection will help us form new work goals which help us deliver better results.

Why not have your say. What will you do differently, when you go back to work?

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A Few Thoughts For #Carersweek

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It has been another tough year.

The Coronavirus is still knocking people for six.  

Relatives and friends looking after loved ones are feeling invisible and under-valued.

For instance, research shows more than 7 out 10 UK carers haven’t practiced self-care and had a break in 12 months (a link to the report is below).

Which mean thousands of people are exhausted. Which means tired relatives struggling to focus on caring for a loved one. Which leaves the cared for person with less than the full support they need.

Vaccination is making a difference. Society may look different before too long.

Hopefully, by June 2022, better support will be offered to carers and carers will be more visible and valued. If so, the cared for will feel the benefit.

‘Breaks or breakdown’, Carers Week 2021 report – Carers UK

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What Can We Do To Be Happier In #2021 ?

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2021 is roughly four months away. The next eight months have to be a happier than the last eight, don’t they?

I mean, how many happiness points out of 10 would you give 2020 so far?

7 out of 10? 6? 5?

Here’s a tip if your 2020 happiness score is 4 out of 10, or less.

Make the most of the people around you. After all:

Family.

Friends.

Neighbours.

Co-workers.

Are all good people to ask for support. It is legitimate to lean on others from time to time, just like they lean on you.

In my experience taking a deep breath and asking for help is the first step back towards happiness. Whoever you talk to will be able to help you reconnect with the qualities that make you smile, feel pride, enjoy your day.

Here’s a quote from Mahatma Gandhi which I like:

Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony.

Hopefully 2021 will be full of those moments.

Meanwhile, who do you turn to when you need to get back into harmony? Leave a comment, or Tweet @RogerD_Said

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3 More Steps After #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek

So, here we are and MHAW has just ended and men have spoken up. However, the conversation about better mental health continues. Luckily, we have tools available to us to improve our health, as well as the support to help us keep going.

Here are three more steps to better mental health.

Ask ourselves what is going inside and how we feel about it. Is everything good? Or is there more anxiety and darkness than usual? The greater the disturbance the less successful our relationships and productivity.

Build up our personal networks, so we are connected to people – family, friends, professionals – who understand our situation and can support us when we need it. Being able to support them is a bonus!

Continue these conversations. It is important to keep having those conversations about positive mental health and to reduce the stigma sometimes associated with these conditions.

How do you address your mental health needs? Feel free to add your voice to the conversation with a comment below.

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What Should We Do To Enjoy A #Happy New Year?

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We all want a happy new year.

Don’t we?

At the start of the year advertisers make the most of that fact. They tell us that:

  • If we join the gym we can be healthier.
  • Moving home will make us that much happier.
  • Our lives will be even better if we start a new job.

But investing in those changes means accepting there are happiness gaps in our life (affecting our Health, Comfort or Career) and that these gaps need to be tackled.

Gap filling tools include, self help books; trusted advice; even blog posts.

Speaking for myself I am going to make more time this year to keep score. By that I mean taking time to assess my life to work out where the happiness gaps are. If an area scores 5 out of 10, or less, then I have to move it up a notch. I will set a goal, agree some actions, relate the actions to dates and get started. I’ll write about the results here.

I hope this post helps nudge you to sit down with a cuppa and score the important parts of your life out of 10, to work out what you can change.

Feel free to comment on your goals here, or share your thoughts in a tweet @RogerD_Said

Here’s to a great 2020.

3 Types Of Thoughtful #Present For 2019 And Beyond

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This year’s Christmas adverts are promoting the usual kind of gifts we should be giving: yes, I’m talking about coffee makers, perfume and jewellery.
 
 
 
 
But what about gifts that will create happy memories a long time from now?
 
 
 
 
For those of us wanting to show we care, without being too commercial here are three gift ideas which will leave a great impression as they come from the heart:
 
 
 
 
Time – I think volunteering a few minutes to help a friend out or benefit a good cause is pretty cool. This kind of thoughtfulness will be remembered  long time into the future.
 
 
 
 
Connection – I’ve appreciated it when someone knows me well enough to recommend I check out a particular TED Talk or YouTube video. The advantage of this gift is you can pay it forward and help someone else out too.
 
 
 
 
Recognition – I’m finding a simple ‘good morning’, or ‘thank you’ goes a long way to put a smile on other people’s faces. Recognition means I see you and I see the value you add to my life.
 
 
 
 
So what’s your take on the most meaningful presents we can give? Put another way, what is the gift you received a long time ago that still makes you feel good inside?
 
 
 
 
Feel free to tweet your thoughts @RogerD_said