How often do you ‘click’ with someone and find a way to support them in their goals?
I am lucky to be connected to several professional development networks. That means I have the chance to support others quite often. It feels good to pay it forward.
You have to be in the right frame of mind yourself to help someone else out. It is easier in some ways to be focused on your own agenda. Easier isn’t always best though.
Here’s a story about helping someone focus, inspired by Cherokee Nation culture.
The One You Feed
A grandfather and grandson are seated in Nature, deep in conversation.
The young man is troubled.
He tells his grandfather about the feelings of anger, envy and self-pity he has.
His grandfather tells him about the two wolves we all have within us.
The wolves are always circling each other, battling for supremacy.
One wolf is mournful, holding on to bad feelings from the past.
The other wolf is bright, joyful, loving and empathic.
Puzzled, the young man asks.
“If they are always there within us, which wolf wins the battle?
The grandfather paused.
“It depends on the one you feed.
Contributing To Your Community
I know from my own experience that feeding the wrong wolf makes life miserable.
Spending too much time looking at set-backs leaves you stuck. It makes you self-centred. It weighs you down. It means you aren’t aware of others’ needs and don’t meet them.
I first experienced coaching (as a client) in the early 2000s. I had ended up overwhelmed by a project I was involved with. The experience of being coached made the process of returning to normal (being part of a team, producing great results) much easier.
What did I learn from the experience?
Being connected to your community is good. Being of service to that community is better. Taking positive action to help the community move forward is best.
How Can You Help The Communities To Which You Belong?
Tapping into your good wolf mind-set means you are better placed to help others. Your optimism inspires others to work optimistically because you understand others’ lives.
That kind of Empathy comes easily to good wolves. You can find out more about Empathy by clicking the link below.
Want To Keep This Conversation Going?
Thank you for dropping by, reading this post, following, sharing and taking action that helps you experience a more fulfilling life.
I’d love to know how you change your thoughts when they get stuck in the negative zone. What’s your secret? How do you motivate your team / community to act positively and produce better results?
Leave your comments below. Your feedback is bound to be valuable to others in the community.
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