As you may recognise there is a theme of ‘confidence’ running through many of the posts this year. That’s not a surprise, as I happen to think we all benefit from confidence, which stems from receiving empathic and effective parenting as young people .
It is certainly easy to recognise the quality of stick-to-it-ness that confident people and groups have. As confidence coach Pam Lidford says, deficits in this area only show up when there is a temporary loss of the ability to ‘take calculated risks’. Pam’s site is well worth a look by the way www.PamLidford.com
In the context of confidence I blogged about G4S last year. In hindsight the organisation was over-confident that their standard recruitment system could deliver exceptional results in hiring Olympic security staff before the 2012 Games.
I also mentioned Sir James Dyson, who displayed the appropriate level of confidence in knowing that his revolutionary vacuum cleaner design would, eventually, work.
I recently considered how the young mobile phone app designer, Nick D’Aloisio, has the right amount of it to have successfully created and sold on Summly before the age of 20.
So it is no surprise to note that University of Warwick research relates to confidence, in the context of the effects of overprotective parenting. The research is based on the characteristics of children who are bullied and the BBC coverage notes Prof Dieter Wolke saying:
“Parenting that includes clear rules about behaviour while being supportive and emotionally warm is most likely to prevent victimisation.”
I wonder if more coaching for parents is a partial solution. If parents can be supported in encouraging their children to grow into confident young people (who feel adequately nurtured and emotionally secure) they may be less likely to grow up as bullies, or as those who face bullying. Who knows, less anti social behaviour and aggression might result too.
An added pay off down the road would be a more resilient generation, better equipped to deal with the challenges that get thrown at them later in life. If a fraction of that was the case it would be a good result simply from coaching interventions.
The BBC’s coverage of the story follows: