Remember These 5 Truths When The Going Gets Tough

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Phew! We’ve made it through the first third of the year.

Hopefully there are more good days in those four months than there are bad ones. In case the next eight months don’t all go well here are 5 upbeat thoughts to remember when the going gets tough and goals seem out of reach.

 

  • Our friends can give us great support, if we are not too proud to ask them for it.
  • We can find new people who will understand what we are going through by using social media.
  • We might have forgotten about today’s crisis in 6 month’s time.
  • We have overcome hard times before, so we can definitely do so again.
  • Once we have got past this problem we will be able to help others who are struggling.
Are there any other points that should go on the list?  Feel free to comment, like and share if this post is helpful.

3 Ways To Bring #Happiness Into Our Life

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I know life isn’t easy and the struggle to be successful can be exhausting.  However happiness is sometimes about the little things that connect us to other people:

  • Seeing some’s face light up when you show them you are grateful for their work.
  • Taking a minute to help a stranger find their destination when they are obviously lost.
  • Making time to share a funny story with friends and enjoying their laughter.

What is your secret to finding happiness in your busy day? Feel free to share your experience on Twitter @RogerD_said and tell someone else you like this discussion if it would help them out.

 

 

That’s What Friends Are For

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If you were to picture yourself sitting in your rocking chair, in your twilight years, what would you imagine were the highlights of your life?  Could they include your:

–       Big detached house in the country?

–       Fleet of fancy cars?

–       CV chock full of high-flying jobs?

If so you might want to think again.  Research conducted by Dr Gregory Bonn, a lecturer in psychology at Monash University in Melbourne, Australia provides compelling evidence that ‘close and enduring relationships are considered central to life satisfaction’.  According to the coverage in the Independent newspaper, material achievements are not too high on the list of Things That Make You Happy.

 

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/money-cant-buy-you-the-good-life-8508265.html

 

Interestingly the survey findings also indicate that ‘Having a worthwhile career was rated as more important to a good life than having a successful one’.

 

There is a segue from the Independent story to one on the BBC news website.  It seems that the University of Chicago has researched the flip side of the ‘happy relationships equal happy life’ paradigm.  Their findings suggest that loneliness can lead to physical as well as psychological harm.

 

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-21517864

 

If that is sound information then it is timely, especially for the so-called ‘leftover’ women in China.  Their ambition and drive for early career success seems to have a downside.   According to BBC coverage, if these women mis-time their career peak they risk being viewed as too old for marriage.  The bad news is that over 25 may be ‘too old’!.

 

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-21320560

 

I wonder if these findings establish any useful goal setting principles?  One’s purpose in life fuels goal setting, so perhaps it is important that some goals relate strongly to building and maintaining healthy relationships.  These might take precedence over goals involving gathering material possessions.

 

That makes sense.  When goal setting we think about what we want to Be, then to Do and last of all, to Have.

 

Maybe the attachments to the key people in one’s life are more powerful and lasting than the links to physical possessions.