I had a really interesting conversation at a networking event earlier this week.
A woman guest and I were talking about the all the different ways it is possible to be of service and to ask for support so you can improve. Here’s a big generalisation that I brought to our discussion:
Women and men have different ideas about seeking support while they tackle their working day
Plenty Of Men Aren’t Alpha Males
I went to a Boy’s school, so I grew up knowing a bit about bullying and that some guys held more of the cards than I did (and weren’t shy about pointing that out).
For every Alpha male out there you will find plenty of ordinary guys who are trying to do the best they can with what they have got.
Where many women will reach out and work effectively together to do more than ‘get by’, many men will try to go it alone, toughing it out in isolation, without showing any vulnerability.
Perhaps (at the extreme end of the scale) that is part of the reason why three times as many men take their own lives, as compared to women.
Men Can Take Action
Keeping calm and carrying on only highlights the distance some men maintain between their inner world and the effective support networks they can tap into.
If there is truth in the men-go-it-alone generalisation then men will keep losing out. They would be better off making time to be thoughtful, working out how they need to grow and taking action to improve their situation. The alternative is spending more time working and less time:
- paying attention to their inner growth goals
- deciding where their boundaries lie, so they don’t end up shortchanging their family, friends and community
- caring about the impact they have on the people they serve, including their clients, their colleagues and the wider community
Making A Difference
I hope that today (International Men’s Day) someone reading this post will decide to set themselves a goal and take an action which helps to improve their quality of life and benefit their community, team and family too.
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