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6 Ways To Help The Man In The Mirror

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Start Change With The Man In The Mirror - Picture From Jusben From Morguefile.com

Start Change With The Man In The Mirror – Picture From Jusben From Morguefile.com

True story.

One Thursday morning commuting on the train, I picked up a copy of Shortlist magazine left on the seat next to me. Flicking through the pages of the latest shiny, products I was expecting I got emotionally ambushed by Andrew Dickens’ deeply personal story about depression* (there’s a link below).

I couldn’t finish reading this unexpected article in public. It struck a chord. It was too emotional for a Men’s lifestyle magazine. 

Bottom line: I didn’t want to be upset in front of other people.

Men and boys face unbelievable pressure

Fast forward to now and according to the Standard newspaper almost half the men in London feel like crying once a month* (more than anywhere else in the country).

The emotional challenge isn’t a London thing. It is universal. There is just something challenging about being a 21st Century man.

The Movember Foundation understands that. The Foundation is a global charity committed to men living happier, healthier and longer lives. You might be aware of their November campaign to encourage men to grow mustaches for the cause.

Interviewed by The Standard their UK director Sarah Coghlan said

Men and boys face unbelievable pressure to live up an archaic stereotype of what it means to be a man, and in the process they neglect their own mental and physical health.

Release The Pressure

It is ok to feel what you are feeling.

In fact neglecting your health has bad consequences. I have coached guys who have been tearful with frustration about their lack of career progress, or lack of life purpose. Who wants to feel drained by the demands of their working day?

Paying attention to health related goals makes more sense. You gain confidence. You feel better. You start performing better. Your work improves. Everyone is happier.

The first step is taking stock of what is going on in your life.

6 Ways To Start Helping The Man In The Mirror

  • Ask yourself what is the source of the burden you are carrying
  • How does the burden disrupt your time at home and at work
  • List the worst-case consequences if you continue to do nothing about it
  • Write down all the results that could come your way if you take action
  • Decide who is the best person to talk to about tackling that goal (doctor, therapist, coach)
  • Get in touch with that person and start making your life better

Want To Start Changing The Way You Experience Work?

If you are ready to start improving your life you can click the link, leave your contact details and download a FREE report. It will help you pay attention to your self improvement goals and get you connected to someone who can help you move forward.  

https://experienceyourlife.coachesconsole.com/

References*

http://bit.ly/Shortlist_Andrew_Dickens_Depression_One_Mans_Struggle

http://bit.ly/The_Standard_Hannah_Al_Othman_Half_Of_London_Men_Feel_Like_Crying_Once_A_Month

 

Goals 2014: Want To Help Yourself Live More Authentically?

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Timeless Advice About Authenticity

Timeless Advice About Authenticity

How is 2014 shaping up for you?  Are you conscious of working against the easy flow some people seem to enjoy, in which they embrace their values and their authentic sense of self?  If you find yourself out of step with the life you should be living there is action you can take: action which can help restore your flow and develop greater authenticity in work and life.

How do you identify the type of authenticity Goal to focus on?

You might want to focus on several key areas at first, but need to do a little work to identify which ones are causing you to feel inauthentic.  Why not test your levels of authentic happiness here courtesy of Dr Martin Seligman at the University of Pennsylvania (free registration necessary).  This exercise will help you pin point which of the 24 key areas you can usefully focus on.

OK you’ve got your focus, now what do you do?

You could try Continuing Professional Development, which has the potential to start moving you in the right direction.

In the UK alone it is estimated, by the CPD Certification Service  that more than 4 million professionals working in all sections of UK society are members of one of the numerous professional bodies, undertaking a minimum of 30 – 40 hours of CPD each year.  How much could you gain in confidence and skills by pursuing a goal in your key area through some CPD?

What are your options if you are not a professional?

Perhaps you feel you don’t qualify as a professional and there are no formal CPD options you can pursue.  How would you feel about exploring your lifelong learning options instead?

In 1997 the Canadian Commission on behalf of UNESCO  created the Learning Together template of resources, still in use today, as it identifies learning under 4 pillars: To Know – To Do – To Be – To Live Together.  The Pillars are a great place to start your exploration of what it means to be a more fulfilled version of yourself.

3 Questions To Consider

  • Whether you decide to grow by means of CPD or the 4 Pillars, which part of your life will you prioritise to improve your well-being?
  • When will you take action to start to change your situation and live more authentically?
  • How will you measure your success?

By all means take a look at the further ideas relating to your work and life goals in the Archive section here, on Facebook and Google+ too.  Or if you are a Linkedin user you can View Roger Dennison’s profile and connect with me there.